There is always a tension in relationships between wanting to be 'me' and wanting to be part of a couple, 'us'; the secret is finding the compromise that doesn't feel like giving in but feels like getting somewhere! This insight will help you work out how to find your happy compromise and avoid relationship issues.
Video synopsis:
Each person brings to their relationship a set of attitudes and beliefs; their unique perspective on the world based on their past and present experience. To become a couple, we have to find ways to accomodate our differences, while still holding on to our individual identities. Finding the balance between "me", "you" and "us" is a continuing source of tension in relationships, which isn't easy.
One piece of advice is to look at this as a journey. You might expect your partner to join you in your journey but they might not have the same expectations. This can lead to separate journeys running in parallel, but there is a way of bringing together different perspectives. It begins with knowing enough about yourself and each other to know what you can and can't accept. A critical element in reaching the point where both partners feel "we can" is for me to know and understand my partner enought to appreciate what they are giving up, and vice versa.
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Anonymous on 31 October 2008 at 7:52pm said...
Excellent visual--rings bells!
Anonymous on 07 December 2008 at 8:58am said...
very good video. eye opener
Anonymous on 01 May 2009 at 9:35am said...
Explains simple concepts with clarity